75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. What we think about affects us physically and emotionally. It’s an epidemic of toxic emotions.
The average person has over 30,000 thoughts a day. Through an uncontrolled thought life, we create the conditions for illness; we make ourselves sick! Dr Caroline Leaf
From the stories that you have shared to me personally, on Word Press and on Face Book, I would suggest that many of you have suffered abuse at the hands of spiritual leaders. We all hate the word abuse and usually recoil from it. We don’t like to talk about it. It is reserved for especially evil people. Yet are all capable of abuse and in its most common form we use it to control people. Spiritual Abuse is when spiritual leaders cross the boundary from care and nurturing to control, neglect and rejection.
One of the most difficult things for trauma survivors is to find words for their experiences. For many the story is never told. Shame and fear keep us locked in silence.
Studies show that being forgiving benefits mental and physical health.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” — Mahatma Gandhi
Spiritual abuse comes from someone that you are asked to trust, that the community trusts and that society trusts. This is difficult because group trust desensitises your alarm systems. It is also wrapped up in theology and your vision of who God is. This abuse is harder to see coming and when it does it takes you out. Trust is at the core of every relationship and very difficult to get back once broken.
At some time we have all have been thrown in a pit, thrown out of the boat, thrown out of Egypt. The cross is about how to stand against hate without becoming hate yourself. Its about forgiving people who lie about us, betray us, reject us.
Grace shakes our conventions with its insistence on getting close to people and touching them with mercy and hope. Grace takes the blame covers the shame and removes the stain. Grace makes beauty out of ugly things.